I turned 39 this week and thought it would be a fun experiment to post two questions on Facebook.
Question No. 1.: What’s so great about getting older?
Question No. 2.: What’s not-so-great about getting older?
The answers — which were truly wonderful, by the way — varied, from suprising to entertaining and sad. But all of them were honest and true.
Here are some of my favorites:
THE GREAT THINGS ABOUT GETTING OLDER
>> I don’t get as embarrassed when I make a mistake. Instead, I laugh about it.
>> A better sense of myself… And realizing the decisions of my parents had little to nothing to do with me.
>> Finally realizing I don’t need to please everyone all the time. Also, making more time for just me is important.
>> No matter how old I get my husband will always be older.
>> Not being treated like a clueless kid.
>> The sex is better.
>> I’ve honestly learned to be thankful for another birthday — it’s not a gift everyone gets.
>> Learning that the grass is greener where you water it. That my blessings will always be greater than things that didn’t go my way and were better than what I wanted.
>> Getting older, I care less about what people think. I do care more about what people feel. And I do my best to love more.
>> Laughing at all the young kids I work with who they think they have the world figured out.
>> Each year I distance myself from those crazy years of insecurity, selfishness, and immaturity. I love the grown up me!
THE NOT-SO-GREAT THINGS ABOUT GETTING OLDER
>> Peeing on yourself when you laugh too hard or cough too hard.
>> Every time I go to the doctor, I swear I come home with a new pill to swallow.
>> Back fat.
>> Sounding like a bowl of Rice Krispies when I get out of bed. … Snap. Crackle. Pop!
>> Your eyebrows start disappearing and your nose hair starts growing.
>> Wondering who will take care of me when I’m really old.
>> Being told “you’re beautiful… for your age”.
>> The random hairs on your chin.
>> Looking in the mirror and thinking “this thing’s broken. Also, who stuck my mother’s photo up there?”
>> The sweet baby who worshipped you is a teenager now thinks you come from another planet.
I read these and realized most of them apply to my aging as well.
I’m learning to love myself more and definitely love others deeper than I understood in my youth.
I also understand back fat. Oh my word, do I understand that.
Which ones do you relate to?
Danielle Herzog is a freelance writer and stay-at-home mom to two children.
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