Miley Cyrus, Justin Bieber and Amanda Bynes aren’t the only young people growing up under a microscope on social media.
Their scrutiny is based on their fame, but when it comes to an average teen, parents are sometimes to blame.
As a teenager, if I drove my mother crazy by back-talking, pouting, whining, or doing something I wasn’t supposed to be doing, she might have complained to her friends, but she didn’t complain to the world wide web.
Stop shaming your kids on Facebook.
I see videos and statuses chastising children all of the time: “When is my daughter going to learn that everything isn’t all about her?” or “My kid is an ungrateful brat”.
I just can’t wrap my head around it. If your kid is driving you so crazy, why don’t you talk to them?
They’ve shut down? You say they won’t talk. Hey, it happens. I get it. Then talk to your significant other, best friend, their teacher, or a counselor about it.
Get them some help. I guarantee Dr. Phil would not recommend a Facebook forum to fix your kid.
Stop talking to your 600 Facebook or Twitter friends, some which you haven’t seen in person since high school.
Stop broadcasting your child’s transgressions to people you may not even know.
We try to teach our children about online safety and that social media posts leave a footprint viewable by future employers and schools, but when parents post disciplinary statements or actions online, they are contributing to an online presence that can impact their child’s future.
Children make mistakes. Learning from those blunders whether they are minor or life-changing is part of growing up.
Adults shouldn’t let those problems haunt a child because they are trying to make a statement.
In a culture where bullying is prominent online, let’s remember to model anti-bullying behavior. Because when parents discipline their kids online, aren’t they just another bully?
Jen Schneider is a middle school teacher and mom to two children.
Read her blogs every Tuesday on momaha.com
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