The Sassy Housewife is a weekly Saturday advice column on momaha.com by Danielle Herzog, a married mother of two. She’ll cover adventures in housewifery — parenting, entertaining and the interests of a been-there-done-that and somewhat-know-it-all wife.
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I have a 6-year-old son who wants to be a ninja for Halloween. I hate the idea of him representing something so violent. We have a strict rule against playing with toy guns in our house, but I never thought we would need a “no numchucks” rule! However, my son loves to pretend he’s a ninja, even when we tell him that we don’t like it. Do I just give in and let him be a ninja or do I try to steer him in a different direction? Perhaps one that promotes peace?
Nurturing The Ninja
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Dear Ninja Mom,
My kids love to do things when I tell them I don’t like it.
Take for example, Barbie. I seriously hate that little blonde bombshell. Yet everyday my daughter picks up that doll and plays with it endlessly as I cringe and beg her to play with puzzles and crayons.
So your son loves to dress up like a ninja, it doesn’t mean he’ll grow up to be one. Odds are he’ll realize as a teenager that girls don’t like them and he’ll start wearing his hair down past his eyes and his pants too low.
Let the boy believe he’s fighting the dangers in the world in his costume. At the end of the day, it’s just a costume.
If he starts throwing real numchucks at you or tries to karate chop you at kindergarten drop off, then maybe it’s time to take a break from playing ninja.
Pretend play is a good thing. Make sure you talk with him about the difference between pretend and real.
Maybe do some research on ninjas. Perhaps you can take what you perceive to be a negative and turn it into a positive. For example, do ninjas need a good night’s sleep in order to fight evil? Did ninjas eat their vegetables so they are strong enough to do their martial arts moves? See where I’m getting at here?
Sometimes, as a parent, you have to choose your battles.
If you’ve already tried to stop him, just know that ninjas are pretty stealth so I’d sleep with one eye open.
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