The Sassy Housewife is a weekly Saturday advice column on momaha.com by Danielle Herzog, a married mother of two. She’ll cover adventures in housewifery — parenting, entertaining and the interests of a been-there-done-that and somewhat-know-it-all wife.
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Dear Sassy Housewife,
My 7-year-old plays football and loves it. His team began the season with 17 kids and now we’re down to 13 — some quit and some were injured. In order to play, each team has to have 11 kids on the field at all times. So that means we will have two rotating out during the entire game.
I think this is ridiculous.
How in the world are our boys going to play an entire game without a break?
I’m afraid the kids are going to get over heated or hurt. On top of that, if more than two kids don’t show up to a game or get hurt we have to forfeit the game. I don’t want that to happen after all the hard work they’ve put into their season so far.
Should I contact someone at the organization or just let the coaches deal with it? Am I just being an overprotective mom?
Fretting over Football.
First of all, when I read your letter I thought, “Well 11 kids on the field is plenty, right?” Yeah, you can see how sporty I am. My idea of playing sports is sitting on a lawn chair while my children basically throw balls at me.
To answer your question, no, I don’t think you are being an overprotective mom. It’s crazy hot outside these days and you are completely justified to worry about the kids dehydrating and getting hurt. However, has anyone spoken to the coaches yet?
Instead of forfeiting, would there be an option to play a rematch at the end of season? What if you spoke to the coach about that option and then found out if parents would agree?
Or if all the kids do have to play the entire game, could more frequent and longer breaks be provided for them? This would give everyone a chance to refuel.
As for the forfeiting, as much as it stinks, it is also a life lesson they need to learn at times. Football is a team sport, and sometimes you are going to face disappointments. It might actually encourage everyone to make more efforts to be at the games so they don’t feel like they are letting the team down.
Here’s the bottom line, though. Your son loves it. You don’t want to be that parent that is afraid all the time when their child is playing a sport. OK, well let me rephrase that. You don’t want to LOOK like you are afraid, keep that to yourself. My best advice is to cheer your son on and keep encouraging him to do his best. And, of course, bring lots of water.
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