The Sassy Housewife is a weekly Saturday advice column on momaha.com by Danielle Herzog, a married mother of two. She’ll cover adventures in housewifery — parenting, entertaining and the interests of a been-there-done-that and somewhat-know-it-all wife.
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Dear Sassy Housewife,
My daughter starts kindergarten next week and I’m a nervous wreck. She’s only gone to preschool for one year and that was only three mornings a week. Now, she’s about to go to school all day and I’m so sad she’ll be gone. She, however, is excited and thrilled to be going. How do I stay excited and not let her see now nervous and sad I am that this chapter is starting?
Back to School Blues
The simple answer is something women have been doing for centuries – faking it. You absolutely fake being excited and don’t for one second show her that you are sad or nervous. See, that’s one of those things about being a parent that stinks – we really can’t show all of our true emotions until they are old enough to handle it. And a 5-year-old really isn’t old enough.
You want her to be excited, you want her to be thrilled. Because it is far harder and worse if she isn’t. If she sees you being sad, she’ll think that’s how SHE should be feeling. You don’t want that. So put on your best acting face and show her that you are just as excited as she is.
Then, after that first day drop off, find your girlfriends and drink a mimosa. I kid you not. A few close friends just had their childrens’ first days of kindergarten and I proposed “Mimosas for Mommies” after drop off. I whipped up a batch and we sat on my porch and shared in the joys, fears and range of emotions we were all experienced. Within minutes, we were all laughing and enjoying the kid-free time together. We agreed that it needed to be an annual tradition and gave us, as mothers, something to look forward to.
My point is – do something fun for yourself on that first day of school. Whether it be mimosas, catching up on email, or maybe buying clothes that you don’t have to worry about getting peanut butter on every day. You should be extremely proud of how you have raised your daughter – the fact that she was so excited to go to school shows you that you have given her confidence and a go-getter mindset.
Now call those girlfriends, find a comfy chair on a porch and enjoy some time to yourself. And when you pick her up at the end of that first day, you’ll love that amazing hug you get – it makes it all worth it.
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