Dear Sassy Housewife,
My daughter is 6 and fights me every morning about what to wear. She wants to pick out her own clothes and sometimes they aren’t appropriate for the weather outside. She has dresses without sleeves in the middle of December, and boots with tights in the middle of summer. I can’t believe I’m dealing with this at just age 6! Is this normal? How can I end the fighting?
Fashion Fightin’ Momma
Is it normal for a girl to have strong opinions about what she wants to wear? My daughter came out of the womb and cried insanely until someone finally took off that hat nurses put on babies after birth. To this day, that girl won’t wear a hat unless it is a tiara. So yes, I’d say that girls at any age have opinions about their clothes.
It’s a tough day for a mother when we realize that our children think we have no fashion sense. Well, in my instance, I don’t, but most moms do. Try not to take offense, it’s a right of passage for us all. I’d like to say someday it will change but it won’t. Later in life, she’ll go shopping with you and try to pick out all of your clothes.
As for your situation, here’s my advice… Each Sunday night make a chart. The chart says all the days of the week on it. Sit down with her and make it a fun activity where you pick a color for each day. So Monday might be red and Tuesday might be yellow, etc… Then, when those days come up, she has to wear an outfit with those colors. As for the weather appropriate clothes, let her pick out a few cute cardigans or some fun new sandals to wear with her outfits. If you let them pick it out, you’ll be surprised at how much they want to wear it.
Also, if there’s something you want her to wear that she doesn’t, then simply say, “Oh, I don’t think you should wear this dress, I don’t really like it anymore.” I guarantee she’ll pick it right up and put it on. Reverse psychology is a wonderful thing in motherhood. It’s also the thing that makes us want a cocktail at night and dread the teenage years.