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Dear Sassy Housewife,
I’m writing because I’m at the end of my rope. I run a playgroup for a group of moms and our children once a week. Recently, my husband started coming to the group as well because he works from home and has a flexible schedule. My problem is that one of the other moms won’t stop flirting with my husband. She does it right in front of me and thinks it’s funny. I don’t like it at all and my husband thinks I’m overreacting. What do you think?
Fed Up With Flirting
Dear Fed Up,
I say you just grab her by the hair and pull that momma down to the floor. Then say, “Hands off my man lady!” Oh wait, that’s probably not the right answer. But man, oh, man, wouldn’t that feel awesome to do?
Since we can’t do that in a civilized society like ours, I recommend you first make a joke about it to her. Next time it happens say, “Are you flirting with my husband again? I’m going to have to keep my eye on you.” Sometimes just making light of it and drawing attention to the action is enough to stop it. She might feel a bit embarrassed and not have even realized it came off as flirting.
However, if she is going all Ginger from Gilligan’s Island on your man, then you need to kick things up a notch and have a conversation. Don’t have it in front of the other moms or even your husband. Just pull her aside at the end of the play date and be honest with her. Let her know that her actions look like flirting and they make you feel uncomfortable. Let her know that you value her as a friend and don’t want to develop any unkind feelings to her. If she becomes defensive, don’t argue back – it isn’t worth it. Let her go home and think about it. I’m guessing she’ll probably be embarrassed by the way she acted and hopefully offer you an apology.
However, if she doesn’t change her actions maybe you can recommend that she finds a daddy playgroup that fits more of her “interests”.
Danielle Herzog, a married mother to two children, blogs for momaha every Wednesday. She served as a student counseling advisor in the Washington D.C. area prior to moving to Omaha. She’s currently completing her master’s degree in counseling at the University of Nebraska at Omaha.
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