It’s a wonderful day when a mother feels pride in her daughter’s actions. Like the day they graduate from high school, or the day they get their first job. Those are the days that mothers love to brag about to their friend, and share stories of their hard work and determination paying off. However, I’m guessing that the mother of Farrah Abraham’s, the MTV “Teen Mom” celebrity from Council Bluffs, didn’t have one of those days this week.
On Monday, Farrah Abraham’s confirmed that not only did she star in a sex tape with the porn star James Deen, but that she recently sold it to Vivid Entertainment for nearly $1 million. As if that isn’t bad enough, the name of the video is “Farrah Superstar: Backdoor Teen Mom”.
OK, so I know that as mothers we are all supposed to support each other and not criticize. However, I just can’t keep my mouth shut about this one. The thing I struggle with is that this is not a girl who doesn’t have family support. She isn’t out on the streets without food, shelter and/or options. She has parents who have offered to help. They have taken care of their granddaughter just so their daughter could finish her education. This is a girl who isn’t doing this for survival – she is doing this for attention. And that’s the biggest problem I have about all of this.
You sign an unwritten agreement when you become a parent that you have to think about your actions and how they affect your children. You have to put your wants and desires into perspective. In any of this insanity, has this young mom thought about her daughter? Yes, I know she says things like, “I’m doing this to give my daughter a better future.” But are you really? Does she realize that this little girl has to go to school someday soon and have to face the teasing and taunting about her mother being a porn star?
Look, I’m not a prude. I have no problem with people enjoying porn. However, I have a big problem when you are claiming to star in one for the future of your children. No sweetie, people work two jobs and go to school at night to better their future for their children. People do porn to get attention. Simple as that.
Danielle Herzog is married and a mother to two children. Read her every Wednesday on momaha.
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