By the time this blog is published, professional movers will be boxing up my entire home. We’ve sold our house, purchased a new one and are scheduled to close on both Friday.
The move just transitioned from something we talked about in the abstract to a legitimate, impending life change.
To say I’m excited about our new house would be an understatement; but to say I’m sad to leave behind our Omaha home, friends and family, would be so too.
With all the hustle and management of home inspections, appraisers, warranties, roofers and packing companies, it’s been easy to compartmentalize the emotion and focus on the tasks. This morning, I’m feeling the emotion.
What about my children?
Lily, 4, seems to be excited but has made several comments about not wanting to leave her friends or preschool. Nolan, 2, can’t verbalize his thoughts on the matter, but I am sure he is keenly aware something is happening.
I’ve taken them both to see the new house, check out their new rooms, and explore Seward. Lily and I have been pinning ideas to her “Lily’s new room” board. We’ve talked about what items are coming with us and what is staying here. I’ve had to explain several times we don’t need to bring the stove and microwave with us because the new house has both. Apparently, she’s very concerned about our ability to prepare food.
What more can I do?
A few tips I found on kidshealth.org offer this advice when moving with a toddler or preschooler to help with the transition:
1. Keep explanations clear and simple.
2. Use a story to explain the move, or use toy trucks and furniture to act it out.
3. When you pack your toddler’s toys in boxes, make sure to explain that you aren’t throwing them away.
4. If your new home is nearby and vacant, go there to visit before the move and take a few toys over each time.
5. Hold off getting rid of your child’s old bedroom furniture, which may provide a sense of comfort in the new house. It might even be a good idea to arrange furniture in a similar way in the new bedroom.
6. Avoid making other big changes during the move, like toilet training or advancing a toddler to a bed from a crib.
7. Arrange for your toddler or preschooler to stay with a babysitter on moving day.
I also liked what babycenter.com suggested with regards to unpacking at the new house.
“Your child needs consistency to feel secure, so once you’re at the new house, set up her room first — no matter how chaotic the rest of the house is or how much you’re dying to unpack the silverware. Make sure she has access to all the things she loves and uses all the time — such as her art supplies or favorite books. If you do this, then she has a sanctuary to go to when she feels overwhelmed by all the unpacked boxes in the rest of the house. Unpack the kitchen next, so she knows she can get food or juice from the fridge or ask for something to eat whenever she wants.”
Given Lily’s concern with kitchen appliances, this is probably a good idea.
So, here we go. Stay tuned for stories and pictures as the Brashears move to Seward!
Jessica Brashear is married with two children. Read her blogs here on momaha.
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